I’m sitting there in a good mood, and suddenly I think, “I won’t be able to get the job done by the end of next week.” My mood instantly does a 180. And then that gloomy thought is replaced by an even gloomier one: “What’s going to happen to me and my family if I don’t get it done? Everything from fluctuating self-esteem to a doomed vacation, since if I don’t get the job done, I won’t have enough money to pay for it.” This destructive train of thought really gets me worked up and I lose my peace of mind for quite a few hours – that is, until I get a visit from Her Majesty the Positive Thought, who says, “Maybe not all is lost. Look – there are other ways to solve this.”
I try to think positively. After all, everyone is talking about how important that is these days. I don’t look at the clock, but I think it takes about a minute. Then I start detecting how other thoughts are climbing all over my positive thought. “What kind of nonsense is that?” “The reality is very different.” “Take action!” “Go and do something! A result created in the mind will only stay in the mind.” I get annoyed. I try to get back to the positive thought: “Wait, what was I thinking about there? Oh, that everything will be fine. Okay. Keep thinking.”
“Everything will be fine,” I keep thinking. A few seconds later, I remember that I forgot to marinate the meat, and that my son is going to be back from school soon and is going to ask for dinner. My thoughts egg each other on: “He forgot to take his medical certificate to practice after we spent so much time waiting for the doctor at the clinic. Everything is fine. Everything’s going to be fine. Everything is fine. By the way, what time is it? Am I going to be late for my gym class? Oh, I better get going. Maybe I’ll think positively in the evening. Or early in the morning, once I get my son off to school. My mind will calm down and then I’ll be able to think calmly. Positively. Or maybe at the gym if the instructor puts on some good music? Then I’ll feel how healthy and strong my body is, how much energy I have… So that means everything is fine and I’m happy.”
The thoughts that we are thinking today, at this very minute, are the ones that shape our future. You’re probably familiar with the phrase “Our life is what our thoughts make it.” What are you thinking about today? About worries, problems or hardships? If so, then your life will also be a problem that can’t be solved.
You’ve probably also been encouraged many times to think and dream positively – to think about what you want and not about what you don’t want, because you pull what you think about into your life. But thought management is a complex process. Almost everyone knows what to do, but no one knows how to do it, and especially how to do it easily, because we get tired of difficult things quickly, and thinking is one of the most difficult things in life.
There’s a wealth of literature on how to think positively, how strong the power of thought is, and so on. But at the same time, the world is full of sullen, depressed people – physically strong men and women who struggle with anxiety and depression because they can’t get their thought process in line.
An effective way to search for positive thoughts is “brainswitching”, used to stabilize the desired state. “Brainswitching” is a term coined by licensed cognitive behavioral therapist Arline Curtiss in her book Brainswitch Out of Depression: Break the Cycle of Despair. She suggests replacing a negative thought with a neutral one and repeating it until the state changes. In this case, conscious brainswitching is based on the premise that two things cannot exist in the same place at the same time.
Charles F. Haanel writes very vividly about this in his book The Master Key System: “If you wish to change conditions, you must change yourself. Your whims, your wishes, your fancies, your ambitions may be thwarted at every step, but your inmost thoughts will find expression just as certainly as the plant springs from the seed. …
“Hold in mind the condition desired; affirm it as an already existing fact. This indicates the value of a powerful affirmation. By constant repetition it becomes a part of ourselves. We are actually changing ourselves; are making ourselves what we want to be.
“Character is not a thing of chance, but it is the result of continued effort. If you are timid, vacillating, self-conscious, or if you are over-anxious or harassed by thoughts of fear or impending danger, remember that is axiomatic that ‘two things cannot exist in the same place at the same time.”